Community News – 13 June 2019

 

Parent Focus Group

Last week we were fortunate to hear from Rachel Saliba, Executive Officer at Catholic School Parents Victoria. We discussed key issues for parents and educators such as: online safety, Catholic Care, numeracy@home, plenary submissions, Naplan review, Child Safe Standards and funding for schools. The Mission of CSPV is to empower parent perspective and leadership in Catholic education through partnerships, communication and advocacy. Please visit www.cspv.catholic.edu.au for more information. Thank you to our PFG members and Rachel for leading this critical discussion.

If you are interested in joining the Parent Focus Group, please email info@sfx.vic.edu.au.

 

After school activities

At St Francis Xavier College, we believe in educating the whole person and provide our students with a plethora of opportunities to participate in extra curricula activities so that they may develop diverse skills. Many of these activities are conducted after regular classes have concluded. Our staff generously give up their time so that our students may benefit. Parents, you can assist us by ensuring that you collect your son/daughter promptly at the conclusion of each activity. Please ensure that you have carefully read on PAM the details regarding dismissal time and venue so that each event concludes appropriately and safely.

 

Some tips from Michael Grose and Parenting Ideas

If you find that your young person’s eyes glaze over the minute you start to talk to them, then don’t despair. Sometimes all takes is a small change to encourage your young person to listen to what you have to say.

 

  1. Tell them what you’ll do

Control is a big issue for young people. Threaten their need for control by telling them what to do and you risk them tuning out. Let them feel that they are calling the shots by focusing on your behaviour rather than telling them what to do. Instead of ordering “Clean your room now!” say “I only go into bedrooms that are neat and tidy.” The shift in language is small but the impact can be significant as your young person is making the decision about their behaviour.

 

  1. Bring others into the act

If your son or daughter is more likely to listen to other adults than you, consider looking use these favoured adults as leverage when holding important conversations. “I think Jai’s dad would tell you that you need to be careful going to a party in that part of town.” Referencing admired adults is a great way to get around a young person’s natural defensiveness and their suspicion that their parents exist only to spoil their fun.

 

  1. Slow communication down

If your son or daughter is adept using the tightest possible timeframe to get your permission, then develop the habit of buying yourself some time. A young person who asks you just before heading off to school if they can go to a party that night, usually knows intuitively that quick decisions will usually be made in their favour.

If you feel that you’ve been verbally ambushed by your young person, slow the conversation down rather than reply straight away. “I need to think about that. I’ll get back to you after school.” Add a time factor rather than force you to make a snap decision.

 

  1. Avoid making eye contact to get cooperation

This strategy is anti-intuitive as we’ve been trained to make eye contact when we speak to others. However making eye contact with a young person while telling them to go to bed challenging them to either argue or ignore you. Better to use as few words as possible -“Erica, it’s bed-time” -and look away while you’re speaking, indicating that you’re not willing to engage in verbal banter.

 

  1. Put that finger away

Nothing invokes a verbal fight quite like an adult pointing a finger at a young person in an effort to get some cooperation. Finger-pointing cuts straight through to your young person’s reptilian brain, inviting them to fight or flee. If you point to the bin indicating it’s their turn to clean it, use an open palm. It’s a non-threatening way for you to get your message across.

Adolescence is a volatile age when a wrong look or word can turn them against the messenger. Choose your words and your non-verbals carefully so that your young person will listen to the message rather than tune out due to clumsy delivery.

 

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